Mama: I remember at my antenatal classes the health visitor asked us all to rate how confident we were; most of us were first time parents so the numbers hovered between 1 and 5, but there was one lady who was expecting her second and she said 8. I remember thinking that I couldn’t imagine ever getting to an 8, I couldn’t believe the hospital were going to let me take a real live baby home with me because I had no idea what I was doing. If I had to take an exam in it I would get a big fat F. I’d read books and articles of course; I am by nature academic, but I was going to have to make a million decisions a day for this little person and they can’t teach that in a book.
Well the truth is that I was right. No book or article can prepare you for motherhood or parenthood. I do have to make a million decisions a day. I have also failed with a big fat F on occasion. But your child comes equipped to teach you and you will lap up the learning. Parenting really is learnt on the job and a large amount of the time through mistakes, but you get to know your child inside out over time. I am now in the privileged position of world expert on Mia and I would say that I’ve finally hit that 8.
Mia: No one on earth knows me better than my Mama. Mama has got the degree in Mia and she’s got a first class one.
We have been together nearly 24/7 since I arrived in her tummy. She knows I nearly always reject my first mouthful of formula, she knows how to get me back to sleep if there’s a loud noise after I’ve just fallen asleep. She knows when I want a cuddle and when I want to be left alone. She knows when to rock me back to sleep and when to make me a bottle because I’ve woken up hungry. She knows the difference between when I call out in my sleep because I’m having an exciting dream and when I call out because it’s a nightmare. She knows that I don’t like my hair in my eyes and that I don’t like my nails cut. She knows to take me straight to the swings when we get to the park and she knows when I want to go home. She knows by the slightest change in my eyes whether I am happy or sad, angry or scared. She knows how to make me giggle even if I’m grumpy.