Mama: I have a necklace with an ‘M’ on it that I wear every day I go to work. One day, when I’m ready, I will take it off and put it away and when she’s old enough it will be Mia’s. I was really nervous about going back to work; my job is demanding and I was going back shorter hours but 4 days a week. I wasn’t sure if I could be away from her for that long, but actually I was been fine from day one. I adore my daughter and being with her but it is also wonderful to go and drink an entire cup of hot coffee (more or less) uninterrupted – I am an office manager so read ‘chief cook and bottle washer!’- and I can talk about Game of Thrones instead of Peppa Pig.
So often when women become mothers we lose ourselves in being Mummy, being Sue for a few hours 4 days a week really makes me feel much brighter and it helps me engage with Mia more. It certainly wouldn’t work for everyone and it’s not easy. The necklace symbolises so much to me; it’s the fact that no matter where I am or what I am doing she is always with me. It illustrates that I am walking around with my heart outside of my chest…5 miles away with her Grandparents. When I pass it on I hope it makes her think of her Mama every now and then.
Mia: Some days I have Mama all to myself, some days I have Dada and Mama which is fun and some days I am with Nana and Grandad. I used to have Mama every day and that was good too. They’re all different and they’re all fun. I like Nana and Grandad’s, they have different toys from at home and different places to explore. I have my own special chair there and Nana let’s me bounce on her bed. When Mama comes to get me she looks really excited to see me and I get really excited to see her. I did like it when I had just Mama to myself all the time, but she always tries to make sure we do fun things when it’s just me and her; we go to the park and watch other children and I go on the swings, or we go on adventures or to soft play. She has more energy now and is happy a lot and that makes me feel happy too.